Dear Homebound: Your husband is making his baggage your problem and if he’s unwilling to do anything about it, he’s choosing to create a fissure in your marriage. It’s not clear if his personal experience with infidelity is as a cheater or someone who was cheated on, but either way his trauma around this has reached the point of self-sabotage.

In today's Asking Eric column, R. Eric Thomas responds to someone who is bothered that their husband doesn't allow them to go on vacations with friends.

"My husband thinks husbands and wives shouldn’t travel separately unless absolutely necessary, that solo trips just open the door for all kinds of issues such as infidelity."

Dear Eric: My husband and I dated long distance for a year before we married. During this time, he told me he had post-SSRI syndrome. After stopping the medication, he could still “perform” but no longer desires sex. He said before the SSRI his drive was fine.

He’s now threatening to sell my car, even though I have no trouble driving to the store, doctor’s office, hair salon, etc. I don’t have insurance that covers mental health issues, and I’ve priced counselors,

My husband thinks husbands and wives shouldn’t travel separately unless absolutely necessary, that solo trips just open the door for all kinds of issues such as infidelity. (He’s speaking from personal experience.

This angers my husband immensely. He tells me “I’m crazy” and that I need to “pull up my big girl panties.” He’s also called me some vile names which I can’t repeat here. I know it’s irrational and I can’t understand why it is happening.