DEAR ABBY: Do you think it’s unreasonable to ask an acquaintance/neighbor to send a quick text before dropping by? This neighbor lives within the same development I do. She is friendly enough, and we occasionally walk our dogs together, but she has a habit of coming by unannounced.

He promised to start initiating time together but hasn't followed through on arranging anything — not even a simple walk around the neighborhood.

I have told him many times I need him to make an effort to initiate. He always agrees, but never follows through.

I have now stopped planning date nights and told him that we won’t be going on a date unless he schedules and plans it. (I do not require anything elaborate -- a walk or a simple coffee would suffice.

I have been married for 17 years to a good man with many great attributes. However, our relationship lacks connection. Every effort at emotional connection is initiated by me (like planning date nights or going out for a walk to have a conversation).