DEAR UNDERVALUED: While your wife may have apologized for these recent instances, it’s clear there’s been a pattern of disrespect and disregard that you’ve had to endure over the entirety of your marriage, especially combined with her family’s racist remarks toward you over the years. You have every right to feel hurt and frustrated.

I was a high school teacher in an urban area and just retired after a grueling 37-year career under very difficult circumstances. I've been married for 30-plus years

I have thought very seriously about ending my marriage as I don’t want to spend the rest of my days with someone who doesn’t value me.

What bothers me is how she now brags about all the benefits she’s enjoying because of my retirement that she didn’t care to celebrate.

In today's Dear Annie column, Annie Lane hears from a reader whose wife planned no party for his retirement or 60th birthday

However, I harbor some resentment toward my wife because she didn’t value my sacrifices at the end of my career. Lots of my friends who retired with me were recognized properly by their wives and immediate family with gatherings and get-togethers to celebrate such a once-in-a-lifetime event.