DEAR ABBY: My husband and I have three grown children, all of whom still live at home. I had always thought that once they graduated from college and got good jobs, they should start paying rent. Because my husband had to pay rent when he still lived at home, he said he would never do that to his kids.

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She has a well-paying job and drives an expensive car. She does barely anything around the house but does buy her own food and toiletries.

"My husband and I have had many discussions about this, at my prompting, and it just leads to us arguing and me feeling resentful toward him."

My husband and I have three grown children, all of whom still live at home. I had always thought that once they graduated from college and got good jobs, they should start paying rent. Because my husband had to pay rent when he still lived at home,